People have a problem with “hairy, man-hating lesbians” yet no one seems to have a problem with hairy, woman-hating straight guys, why is this
#maleproverbs is a hasthtag (started by @brownaandlovely, according to Topsy) that explored the impact of patriarchy and how men often use the same statements over and over; because of male privilege, such statements align with status quo thinking and are thereby “normalized.”
Naturally the usual derailment came (i.e. "not ‘all’ men, "I don’t do that," "reverse sexism!", "you women are mean/bitter," etc.) instead of them realizing that if 19K+ tweets are sent on a topic in a couple of days by women who have better things to do than “make up stories” that coincidentally other women have experienced as well, maybe patriarchal oppression and sexism are institutional. Maybe misogyny, misogynoir and transmisogyny are real. But no, derailment and denial are always the expression of privilege. Many of the tweets I saw in the topic and shared described hetero men, but to be clear, gay men can also be misogynistic and can have male privilege.
Not a single word in my tweets above are exaggerated (not even the last one), and I have written essays on most of what is covered in the tweets. I WISH misogyny and misogynoir (some things that I tweeted are particular to the impact of White supremacy, racism and anti-Blackness on misogyny, thereby impacting Black women differently, and impacts how Black men target anti-Black misogyny or misogynoir towards Black women) were “made up.”
Sadly, some men of colour who know racism is real were angered by this trending topic on sexism and misogyny. Everything is okay to discuss until the specific privilege that someone has is in question. Oppression is not linear though. And of course a lot of trolling and attacks by White men occurred. But again, as I mentioned before, people with privilege aren’t used to being checked or disagreed with. Social media has upset the order. Knocked a few gems off their crowns. The silence that the privileged love so dearly is being upset by a large voice made up of smaller ones. (Must note that some men called misogyny out as well; not all trolled, which was great. Also, some people called out others being cissexist and specifically associating cis men’s bodies with all men; that’s not helpful in calling out male privilege and patriarchy.)
the worst kind of misogyny
is the kind that seeps out of your uncle’s mouth at christmas dinner
or from your favorite movie you’ve watched 500 times
or that snide comment your cousin makes on vacation
from the people you trust
and so quick
so slickly spoken
you barely catch itits the betrayal that gets ya
There are more charts if you click through.
I’m so glad this info graphic is going around, because so many people don’t realize how ageism and misogyny play hand in hand and how the sexualization of young girls play into this.
Santoine: This is an important graph I felt you all should see and understand
I was *just* thinking about this.
Steubenville football players drug, kidnap, and gang rape unconscious girl, call themselves “Rape Crew”, tweet about it, take pictures of it, and video tape it. They are essentially sentenced to 1-2 years. The media bends over backwards to portray them sympathetically.
Marissa Alexander fires a warning gunshot to defend herself against abusive husband. No one is hurt. She is sentenced to 20 years.
“Misogyny doesn’t exist anymore”
Well! For me, this thriller was not so thrilling. There are some problems with Dragon Tattoo, and let’s talk about the main one: There are a lot of dead ladies in this book. Literally: hundreds.
Do these examples of misogyny represent anything new?
The film Polytechnique has won nine Genie awards, including Best Picture. It prompted me to watch the film, which I’ve avoided doing.
It’s short, not quite a full-length movie, but I had to to pause it and walk away three times. But, it’s well done, and deserved to win the awards. I appreciated that the audience was never told the killer’s name, and that it was filmed in black and white.
A write up about the film is on Wikipedia here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polytechnique_%28film%29
The trailer is on youtube, but I don’t recommend it, because the user comments are infuriating and heart breaking (apparently, women deserve to be massacred).
The film itself is easy to find online with a quick search, if you’re so inclined.